I try to fix it straight away

You move toward the problem - fast.

When something feels off, you notice it straight away and want to sort it out. Leaving things unresolved feels uncomfortable, sometimes unbearable.

You might:

replay conversations in your head
read into silences or small shifts in someone's tone
reach out for reassurance or want to talk it through immediately
find it really hard when someone pulls away or goes quiet

At the root of it, you just want to feel close, secure, and okay again.

But here's the hard part: the more you push for connection or clarity, the more the other person can pull away, which leaves you feeling even more anxious, hurt, or confused. It's exhausting.

This pattern usually started for a reason, even if it's working against you now. Without understanding what's driving it, this cycle tends to repeat - even with someone you love and want to stay close to.

Watch this short video to understand what's keeping this pattern in place - and what actually shifts it.

Watch it here

About Skye

I'm a relationship and trauma counsellor based in the Hunter Valley. I work with individuals and couples across Australia.

Most people come to me when they're stuck - in the same arguments, the same dynamics, the same feelings - and can't figure out why. My work is about getting underneath that, so you can understand yourself and others, and the change actually sticks. The video above is a good place to start.

Or if you're ready to talk, you can book an intake session here.